The Portal is one of New Orleans’ best-kept sexploration secrets. — I’m feeling reinvigorated after a kinky weekend at The Portal. Showing couples how they can use the St. Andrew’s Cross, spanking bench, and bondage table are a few of my favorite things! If you’re ever in the French Quarter with a partner, this hidden gem is worth a visit…or perhaps…

How to last as long as you want to…and then some. — Many people don’t believe it when I say it’s possible to orgasm on command. Or that you can have more powerful orgasms by learning to delay them. But it’s true. With a little practice, you can learn to control when and how you climax — both alone and with a…

How I had ‘relationship sex’ while flying solo. — I was once one of those people who was chronically partnered. I hopped from boyfriend to boyfriend. There was always another one lined up before the end of whatever current relationship I was in. After a particularly tough breakup a few years ago, though, I decided to take a sabbatical…

A how-to for orgasmic self-actualization. — In 2020, I was single and living alone. Sex — and orgasms — were available if I desired. Until everyone was told to keep six feet apart. Others baked sourdough and planted gardens during the lockdowns. Me? …

Wondering how to come more easily…or for the first time? — There’s a lot of content out there on how to orgasm, so it can be tough to sort out information that’s both trustworthy and works well for you. I’ve put together this write-up, activity book, and video course based on my favorite resource: science. …

How to achieve a heightened state of pleasure for ultimate sexual satisfaction. — People often talk about sex and pleasure as if they’re simple. Just touch each other’s private parts and you’ll rocket to heights of starry-eyed bliss. But it’s not always that easy, is it? Many people struggle to feel completely satisfied with their sex lives. Maybe sex used to leave you…

Find new ways to connect through pleasure. — Pleasure mapping is all about exploring sensuality. When done right, it helps you and your partner(s) identify new places on your bodies that feel good to touch and have touched. It can also reveal what kind of touch to use in these new places, as well as new ways to…

The Happy Kitten Portal is a hidden lifestyle gem located in the French Quarter of New Orleans. — Whether you’re a BDSM novice or have been in the lifestyle for years, a visit to The Happy Kitten Portal in New Orleans is a must-do when you’re in town. I’m always surprised when locals don’t know The Portal exists–especially those in the kink scene. With nearly floor-to-ceiling windows overlooking…

A primer on all things kink. — After a long hiatus from my monthly Live Chats, I hopped back on last night to talk about all things kink. Missed it? No worries. I’ve got the replay for you right here: One of the inspirations for this chat was actually a…