How I had ‘relationship sex’ while flying solo. — I was once one of those people who was chronically partnered. I hopped from boyfriend to boyfriend. There was always another one lined up before the end of whatever current relationship I was in. After a particularly tough breakup a few years ago, though, I decided to take a sabbatical…

A how-to for orgasmic self-actualization. — In 2020, I was single and living alone. Sex — and orgasms — were available if I desired. Until everyone was told to keep six feet apart. Others baked sourdough and planted gardens during the lockdowns. Me? …

Wondering how to come more easily…or for the first time? — There’s a lot of content out there on how to orgasm, so it can be tough to sort out information that’s both trustworthy and works well for you. I’ve put together this write-up, activity book, and video course based on my favorite resource: science. …

How to achieve a heightened state of pleasure for ultimate sexual satisfaction. — People often talk about sex and pleasure as if they’re simple. Just touch each other’s private parts and you’ll rocket to heights of starry-eyed bliss. But it’s not always that easy, is it? Many people struggle to feel completely satisfied with their sex lives. Maybe sex used to leave you…

Find new ways to connect through pleasure. — Pleasure mapping is all about exploring sensuality. When done right, it helps you and your partner(s) identify new places on your bodies that feel good to touch and have touched. It can also reveal what kind of touch to use in these new places, as well as new ways to…

The Happy Kitten Portal is a hidden lifestyle gem located in the French Quarter of New Orleans. — Whether you’re a BDSM novice or have been in the lifestyle for years, a visit to The Happy Kitten Portal in New Orleans is a must-do when you’re in town. I’m always surprised when locals don’t know The Portal exists–especially those in the kink scene. With nearly floor-to-ceiling windows overlooking…

A primer on all things kink. — After a long hiatus from my monthly Live Chats, I hopped back on last night to talk about all things kink. Missed it? No worries. I’ve got the replay for you right here: One of the inspirations for this chat was actually a…

Mindful masturbation rewires your brain for better sex. — A couple weeks ago, I appeared on Secular Sexuality to talk about one of my favorite topics: masturbation! One thing that came up quite a few times was how easy it is for anyone to improve their sex life by setting aside time for intentional self-pleasure. In particular, an…

Linguistically, a lot has happened in the last 50 years when it comes to conversations about nonmonogamy. — The terms ethical nonmonogamy and consensual nonmonogamy are both used to describe the same thing. In a nutshell, they refer to relationships that: involve more than two people, who all agree to the relationship structure. The second part is what makes these non-traditional relationships ‘ethical’ or ‘consensual’. …