Here are the books my sex-positive book club has read…and what we’re reading next. — (Original post with links at sexcoachshannon.com) I spent the weekend selecting the Sex-Positive Book Club’s reads for the rest of the year. This is always a tough task. There are so many great books out there and so little time. But cuts were made. Decisions were finalized. …

What’s on — and off — the table for your poly dynamic? — A while back, I created a Yes No Maybe List for ENM (ethical nonmonogamy) to use with clients interested in open relationships. The feedback on it has been overwhelmingly positive. It’s helped a lot of individuals and couples puzzle out which aspects of ENM could (and couldn’t) work for them. Ethical Nonmonogamy 101 A primer for the uninitiated.sexcoachshannon.medium.com

A sex coach’s thoughts on correlations. — A while back, a friend of mine hosted a brunch to introduce all her kinky comrades to one another. I happily attended, of course. Kinky people are fun! Within an hour, however, we were bonding over something else we had in common: neurodivergence. Neurodivergent: a non-medical umbrella term that describes…

Swiping outside the box in your 30s, 40s, and beyond? Read this. — Whether swinging or kinking, seeking a Dom or a pan-poly-switch, dating in the lifestyle comes with its own etiquette and expectations. the lifestyle: formerly used in reference to swinging, this term now frequently refers to kink, BDSM, ENM, polyamory, cuckolding, and other unconventional relationship practices The tips below are valuable…

or…How to Not Get Polyfucked — It’s a harsh but real truth: you can’t have happy, healthy nonmonogamy without boundaries. Our time and energy are limited. Burning out trying to please everyone doesn’t work outside of relationships. It won’t work inside them, either. You can certainly try. But nine times out of ten a lack of…

Orgasm Conditioning 101 — Ready to add or expand on orgasm play in your relationship? Sounds fun! Orgasm conditioning is a particularly hot journey to embark on with a partner. Taking or handing over control over sexual climax is truly not for the faint of heart. If you’re ready to take on the challenge…

How to explain you’re ready for a change in the bedroom. — Sometimes, a minor difference in sexual expression between partners becomes a source of real discomfort over time. The difference may start out insignificant. It might be a harmless preference. Or maybe your partner has a kink you don’t mind entertaining. In fact, you might even enjoy it for a while…

Have you tried everything? — (Note: I am not affiliated with the linked Amazon products in this post. The images and links are provided as examples only and should not be considered endorsements.) Already made use of every surface in the house? Perhaps it’s time for something new! Sex furniture comes in a variety of…

Long-term relationships thrive on novelty. — There’s something I’ve noticed about people in long-lasting relationships: most are willing to try just about anything once. Seeking new experiences together is one of the top ways partners maintain connection and excitement. …