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Are You Worthy of Love?
Yes; but you may not be ready for a romantic relationship
Whether you know it or not, whether you feel it or not, you are absolutely worthy of love.
But that doesn’t mean you’re entitled to romance.
Our obsession with romantic relationships is a little scary. We can have rich, full personal lives where we spend lots of time with family and friends who love us dearly, and yet still feel like we fall short simply because we’re single.
It’s as if we rely strictly on romantic relationships to validate our worthiness, and that’s ridiculous. There is so much more to us than relationship status.
It’s especially weird when you consider that romance is a relatively new concept in human history: for centuries, “love” and relationships as we know them didn’t really exist, and certainly didn’t lead to something as important as marriage.
A great illustration of this point can be seen in the well-known “rebound” effect after a break-up: eager to reaffirm worthiness of love after a split, many of us jump into a new relationship (or something resembling one). This eases the transition of ending a romantic relationship, and for many who felt or feel unloved because of whatever led to the breakup, a rebound provides a balm.
