Enjoy Guilt-Free Polyamory with Healthy Boundaries
Highly empathetic people often experience unearned guilt. Let’s let go of that.
While writing Jealousy is a Polyamorist’s Best Friend, one thing that kept coming up in my conversations was guilt in polyamory.
Which kind of blew my mind. Over a decade ago, I wrote a personal blog post about polyamory and guilt that I still get emails about from time to time.
Guilt in polyamory comes in many flavors. Today, I want to talk about:
- addressing healthy guilt vs. unearned guilt
- overcoming the “shoulds” behind most poly guilt
- what to do when you feel guilty about someone else’s feelings
Let’s start by getting clear on what we’re talking about.
What is Guilt?
Guilt is a natural, social emotion based in empathy.
Where jealousy points inward to our unmet needs, guilt points outward to…