How Much Sex is Normal? A Woman’s Guide to Natural Desire

An explainer of sexual desire in individuals, relationships, and marriages.


One of the top questions I get from women is: How much sex is normal?

As with most things, my answer is: it depends!

Sex is a natural part of the human experience. That being said, how frequently someone has it can vary significantly from person to person.

Understanding your sexual desire and how it compares to others can help you navigate your relationships and foster a healthy sexual connection.

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In this guide, we’ll:

  • explore the spectrum of high and low sex drive in women
  • address 5 common questions about sexual frequency
  • shed light on what constitutes a normal and healthy libido

First, let’s talk about sexual desire.

High vs. Low Sex Drive in Women

When we talk about sexual frequency, we have to talk about sexual desire.

Many people refer to their sexual desire as a sex drive.

What is sex drive?

Sex drive, also known as libido, refers to an individual’s overall interest in engaging in sexual activities. It is influenced by a complex interplay of physical, emotional, and psychological factors.

Women’s sex drives naturally fluctuate throughout our lives. While there is no one-size-fits-all definition of a normal sex drive, learning…



Shannon Burton, SXI (they/she)

Sex & Orgasm Coach helping women+ have blissful sex and effortless orgasms. | Visit for free resources. | 🌈Queer, Kink, & Poly Affirming