Love Like a Hedonist: Spice up the Bedroom with These 6 Secrets

What can pleasure-seekers teach us about keeping the spark alive?


In my line of work and play, I spend a lot of time around hedonists who know exactly how to spice up the bedroom.

hedonist: a person who believes that the pursuit of pleasure is the most important thing in life

Hedonist gatherings are often what you expect…and then some. Masquerades, lingerie balls, and risque parties are a pleasure-seeker's delight.

While these sensual events aren’t everyone’s cup of tea, there’s much to be gained from them. Attendees are exposed to countless ideas to keep relationships exciting for the long haul.

Today, I want to share six of the most powerful things I’ve learned from spending time with people committed to the pursuit of pleasure.

The tips below come from people young and old, single, dating, and married, and of all genders and sexualities.

I’m also including a way to practice each tip and spice up the bedroom at home. Use the Spice it Up ideas as written, or adjust them to make them work for you.

If you’re wondering what’s behind the most enduringly passionate partnerships-read on.

1. Show Up

The first step to enjoying a pleasure party is showing up.

This goes for relationships, too!



Shannon Burton, SXI (they/she)

Erotic Ignition Coach for Women+ | Visit for free resources.