Scheduling Sex Is Hot…Here’s How to Do It Right

Planned romps don’t have to feel routine.

Shannon Burton, SXI (they/she)


Listen, I get it. Scheduling sex just doesn’t sound sexy.

The idea of “penciling it in” among work, errands, and other obligations can make even the most sex-positive people wince.

Yet, scheduled sex is probably more common than you think.

For example, perhaps you have…

  • anticipated sex when reuniting with a partner after spending time apart
  • looked forward to sex during weekends, holidays from work, or vacations
  • enjoyed sex at the end of regularly scheduled dates, like weekly dinners or nights out
  • organically built a routine of morning, afternoon, or evening sex based on which was most convenient

All of these are examples of scheduled sex. And there’s no reason why they can’t include hot, steamy, brag-worthy romps.

In today’s post, I’m talking about the benefits of scheduling sex and 3 steps to make it work for you.

The Benefits of Scheduling Sex

The benefits of planned intimacy are profound, especially for people with packed calendars. People who schedule sex often enjoy:

  • deeper emotional connection
  • healthier, more radiant sex lives
  • better conflict resolution and mutual understanding

Perhaps most importantly, scheduling sex helps couples reduce stress.



Shannon Burton, SXI (they/she)

Sex & Orgasm Coach helping women+ have blissful sex and effortless orgasms. | Visit for free resources. | 🌈Queer, Kink, & Poly Affirming