The Art of Arousal

How to achieve a heightened state of pleasure for ultimate sexual satisfaction.

Shannon Burton, SXI (they/she)


People often talk about sex and pleasure as if they’re simple. Just touch each other’s private parts and you’ll rocket to heights of starry-eyed bliss.

But it’s not always that easy, is it?

Many people struggle to feel completely satisfied with their sex lives. Maybe sex used to leave you breathless in the best ways, but over time the effect has fizzled.

Or perhaps the spark is still there, but there’s a desire for more. Or maybe you never quite figured out what all the hubbub was about in the first place.

Whatever the case, chances are the key to complete sexual satisfaction lies in learning the art of arousal.

What is arousal?

Sexual arousal is a combination of physiological and psychological responses to sexual stimuli. People commonly refer to being aroused as being ‘turned on.’

You can become aroused by a wide range of stimuli, including:

  • images and videos
  • stories
  • ideas
  • activities
  • touch
  • people

Some people even become aroused by certain tastes, smells, or sounds.

Once aroused, your nipples and penis or clitoris usually become firm and your muscles may become tense. You may also experience a drop in inhibition and a heightened emotional state.

Altogether, the effects of arousal can create quite a heady experience. Most people find this pleasant and feel the desire to engage in sexual activity whether alone or with partners.

Why is arousal important?



Shannon Burton, SXI (they/she)

Sex & Orgasm Coach helping women+ have blissful sex and effortless orgasms. | Visit for free resources. | 🌈Queer, Kink, & Poly Affirming