Train Your Partner to Come on Command
Orgasm Conditioning 101
Ready to add or expand on orgasm play in your relationship? Sounds fun!
Orgasm conditioning is a particularly hot journey to embark on with a partner. Taking or handing over control over sexual climax is truly not for the faint of heart.
If you’re ready to take on the challenge, however, you’re in the right place. Let’s talk about what it takes to get a partner coming on command.
Prerequisites
Before we dive into the climactic details, there are a few important things you need to know before beginning an orgasm conditioning practice.
1. You Need an Easy-O
Orgasm conditioning is not for someone who has a hard time reaching climax. If someone doesn’t already have a reliable way to reach climax, and it isn’t because you’re already playing with orgasm denial, work on that first.
If you or a partner often struggle to climax, check out my post about how to come more easily, frequently, and powerfully.
2. Know the Risks
As with any kink, there are some risks to consider when it comes to orgasm conditioning. This practice involves adjusting the body’s and mind’s response to erotic stimuli, so be aware that these changes can impact the way a person experiences sex in the future.
Sometimes orgasm conditioning occurs within the context of a consensual power dynamic, with one partner ‘topping’ the other by completely controlling when their ‘bottom’ climaxes.
If this is a goal in your relationship, it’s wise to create and include a backup command in conditioning that the bottom can use in case the relationship or dynamic comes to an end.
Beware a top who is reluctant to…
