When Masturbation Ruins Your Sex Life

Is it possible to have too much of a good thing?

Shannon Burton, SXI (they/she)
7 min readDec 2, 2021
Photo by Inzmam Khan

A couple of weeks ago, I published 8 Ways Masturbating Improves Your Sex Life. In that article, I talked about how single and partnered folks alike use solo sex to connect with themselves and enjoy the physiological and psychological benefits of getting off.

For the vast majority of people, masturbation is a good thing; it’s a totally normal part of human sexuality.

Masturbation allows us to meet our sexual needs regardless of whether partners are available or desired. It’s also been proven to reduce stress, improve sleep, and relieve various sexual dysfunctions such as anorgasmia and premature ejaculation.

However, for some people, masturbation can become a worrying behavior. When self-stimulation starts to drastically affect your day-to-day life and relationships in negative ways, it’s helpful to know when and where to seek help.

Do you or someone you know have a masturbation problem? Let’s go over some common questions I get on the topic to figure that out.

How much is too much masturbation?

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Shannon Burton, SXI (they/she)

Sexual Empowerment Coach for Women+🌈 Explore, embrace, and expand your sexuality with virtual, talk-based coaching. Find resources at sexcoachshannon.com