Where to Go For Online Sex Therapy

Shannon Burton, SXI (they/she)
7 min readDec 10, 2021

A collection of resources for those seeking online therapy for sex and sexuality.

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Finding a good sex therapist is hard. If you’ve tried finding one to see in-person, perhaps using the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) referral directory, you may already know this.

As of this writing, in fact, there are only 910 licensed sex therapists in the U.S., making up just .005% of all therapists in the country.

That’s just 18 sex therapists per state!

Many people seeking a sex therapist are further limited by geography. How many sex therapists are in your specific city or county? Assuming you have a car, how far of a drive would it take to see them in person?

If you can find a sex therapist within driving distance, the next question is whether they are trained to handle (and choose to handle) your specific concern.

Some sex therapists only work with couples, for example, posing a problem if you’re single. Or the opposite situation could be true. Alternately, a provider may specialize in LGBTQIA+ focused therapy, Christian sex counseling, ethical nonmonogamy and kink, or another niche that you simply don’t fit into.

If any of these hurdles stop you from getting the help you need, your best bet is to seek online sex therapy.

But first…

What is sex therapy?

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Sex therapy is talk-based counseling that addresses issues affecting a person’s sex life. A licensed sex therapist is especially helpful in handling situations where mental health and sexuality intersect. This includes things like:

  • Recovering from sexual trauma, such as rape or assault
  • Navigating sexuality while also managing diagnosed mental health conditions
  • Recieving LGBTQIA+-focused counseling from a therapist qualified to talk about sexual concerns
  • Addressing how body shame affects one’s sex life, particularly for clients suffering with…
Shannon Burton, SXI (they/she)

Sex & Orgasm Coach helping women+ have blissful sex and effortless orgasms. | Visit sexcoachshannon.com for free resources. | 🌈Queer, Kink, & Poly Affirming